I Love You, But It’s Not Gonna Happen

When you have to tell a client that their budget is not going to get them past first base

Sometimes the most loving thing you can do as an architect is shut down the conversation — or at least redirect it. A case in point: I was “dating” a lovely couple who lived in one of the tony “W” suburbs west of Boston. They were interesting, culturally attuned, sensitive — just really nice people. And they had a budget of $1.5 million to put an addition on their home. After conducting a viability + zoning study, measuring the house, and developing a schematic design, I was able to assure them that the money they had set aside was enough — until they decided that they needed a fully finished basement under the addition rather than simply a crawl space.


The wife wanted to be able to grow plants throughout the year that thrived in her native Brazil, which would require maximizing the glazing on the walls and roof. She wanted a studio to do her artwork. They both wanted an exercise room.  

 They didn’t believe me that the changes wouldn’t come at significant cost, so I brought in three GCs, all of whom estimated between $2.2 and $2.5 million. It was at that point the couple realized the residence wasn’t going to be their forever home and decided to just re-do the bathrooms and move on. 

 I was able to help them figure this out for just $15,000 rather than what it would have cost had I done a complete set of drawings. That was intentional. I do my work in phases to allow people to discover whether there is a “there” there. I want them to be in charge of their checkbook.

 The first phase doesn’t just involve a study, measurements, and preliminary design work.  It also entails a realistic look at the numbers. As described in my Project Planning Guide (you can reach out to me for a PDF), having $1.5 million to spend doesn’t mean you have enough for a $1.5 million project. It’s more than prudent to put some of the money aside for unavoidable contingencies, fees for a survey and potential legal advice, even a line item for new furniture and perhaps an exterior paint job depending on what is being done.


If it looks like the money will cover the desired project once these and related adjustments are made, I proceed to phase 2: design development, construction documentation, and construction administration.

If it doesn’t look like the money will be enough, it’s important to take a step back and reassess. In this case described here, I didn’t break up with the couple. It just became clear that this wasn’t our time.

They filmed ‘American Fiction’ in my house. Can I get an Oscar?

My architectural gem of a house just launched me to stardom. Well, sort of.

Author’s house during filming. DANIEL G. STEGER

The first time I saw actors Jeffrey Wright and Tracee Ellis Ross waiting to open my front door, I felt as gobsmacked as you might imagine.

How our house, a Victorian built in 1895 with a turret and wide front porch, became a set in the recently Oscar-nominated film “American Fiction” is a story that began the day Rolando and I closed on our new home. Newlyweds who had been married just six months, we arrived at the house in the Bellevue Hill section of West Roxbury — and found a note from a local scouting agency. They wanted to know if they could view the interior.

Rolando is a lawyer. He immediately sniffed a scam. I’m an architect. I immediately said yes. If Hollywood found the sweep of our square footage and the detailing on the fireplace surrounds worthy, who was I to stand in the way?

It all started with a walk-through by an assistant who made it clear she was at the bottom of the pecking order. (Her name was Andie, just like the lowly assistant played by Anne Hathaway in “The Devil Wears Prada.” I took it as a sign.) Then came the film’s screenwriter and director Cord Jefferson. Our home was auditioning. It got a callback when yet another group came through, and then it finally got the part. Our house was ready to take its star turn.

The set designer arrived to see if there was any of our furniture she wanted to use (no), and the crew stashed all our stuff in rooms they weren’t going to shoot in. They stashed the two of us and our 9-year-old Labradoodle, Gus, at the Residence Inn in Dedham, stressing that this was “an independent, low-budget film.”

Setting the stage in the author's front hall, complete with the set designer-chosen chandelier. DANIEL G. STEGER

I’m pretty sure the actors didn’t stay at the Residence Inn. At least, Rolando and I never ran across them. We never even got a chance to find out what Jeffrey Wright thought of his assigned half bath off the kitchen — a tired powder room with a wall that didn’t reach all the way to the ceiling. Or what Tracee Ellis Ross thought of her half bath under the third-floor eaves.

Before shooting began, the house had an appointment with hair and makeup. Dozens of people descended like a SWAT team of grips, wanting to know things like where the electrical panel was and pulling out tools to replace our front-hall chandelier with a set designer-chosen one. The drapes were swapped out for sheer panels with blue velvet overlays. One afternoon a van approached and the crew pulled out what seemed like 20 different rugs to see which they wanted to use in each room.

The crew also had meetings with the neighbors to garner local buy-in. We were taking Gus for a walk at some point when we saw a gaggle of people standing around the site location manager. But any concerns, whatever they were, were assuaged. After all, our neighborhood was going to be famous.

Quiet on the set, please. DANIEL G. STEGER

Although there were easily 75 to 100 people on site during filming (someone really did have the job of calling “Quiet on the set!”), things usually proceeded smoothly. The only real scuffle occurred when we walked into our kitchen early one morning to find dishes and other things strewn about — wedding gifts that we ourselves had barely used, salt and pepper shakers, an heirloom lamp handed down from my grandmother. We had been promised that none of our personal items would be picked through. The worst part: The scene — a discussion over a meal in the dining room — was cut from the movie.

Tracee Ellis Ross, starring as Lisa, and Leslie Uggams, playing her mother, Agnes, during a scene filmed in the author's dining room. CLAIREFOLGER

But when you finally go and see a film more than a year after it wraps, and there’s Leslie Uggams coming down your staircase, Jeffrey Wright sitting in your office reimagined as his childhood bedroom, and Sterling K. Brown swimming in a backyard pool that you don’t actually have, all is forgiven. We’ve now gone to see the movie a number of times (how many is not important), and I marvel that I had the architectural vision to choose a house that would be home to a movie great enough to garner five Academy Award nominations — for best picture, best actor (Wright), and best supporting actor (Brown), among others.

What I would like to suggest, in fact, is that it’s my home that’s up for an Oscar. And since my home is just an extension of me, it’s really I, the film’s starchitect, who have gotten the nod.

I’d like to thank the Academy.

Daniel G. Steger is the founder and principal of DGS/a Architecture, a Boston-based studio that specializes in custom residential design, renovations, and additions.